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Laurie Davis, the founder of eFlirt, an online dating company in New York, estimated about 10 percent of her clients are in rural areas, including one person in California who has to drive two hours to the nearest populated town. One night a woman he was talking to encouraged him to meet a nice, spunky friend of hers she thought would be perfect for him: turns out it was his cousin.
In Iowa, For Tillman, the nearest place is Essex, a town of people that lacks a stoplight and has one bar, and where it doesn't take long for a single person on the dating scene to bump into the same people. Farmers face challenges finding love in rural America.
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One weekend he was going to accompany her to a wedding, but the tractor broke down and he couldn't go. Ansgar in northern Iowa, allowing her to know firsthand online rigors and unpredictability of farm life. Omaha, the nearest major city, is an hour's drive away — not an insurmountable distance, but few women want to date a guy who is that far away when they can meet someone closer, he said.
It used to be free beer and food were folks to draw him to an event. While working dating an advertising agency in Ohio, he met a recently divorced farmer who worried she was Iowa 90 hours a week on her farm and would never get to meet somebody new who understood or appreciated what she did for a living. Share your feedback to help improve our site! For a corn, soybean or other row crop farmer in the middle of a prosperous fall harvest, or a livestock owner having to feed animals or milk cows every day, abandoning the job to go out for a late night on the town with a date means abandoning his or her livelihood and sometimes only source of income.
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The Internet has been a boon to people living in rural America, with its abundance of online niche dating sites, some devoted to farmers, including farmersdatingsite. For Tillman, he is going out on sometimes two or three dates each month, but so far there's nothing serious.
It does move you," he said. Everybody tried to talk me out of it," said Miller, who married his wife 36 years ago. Now his friends joke that if women will be there so will Tillman.
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Agriculture producers such as Tillman, by their nature, go beyond the traditional 9-to-5 job in a cubicle. Christopher Doering cdoering gannett.
Another night the weather was ideal, so he grabbed the opportunity to rake hay. This is our way of life. Miller started the company in almost by accident. Contact Christopher Doering at cdoering gannett.
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Those customers also tend to be more open to feedback and learning about the peculiarities of online dating because they've struggled in the past and their options are finite. Her advice: Be patient during the arduous process, talk on the phone a few more times if necessary before committing to a long drive to meet someone and scour multiple dating sites that attract different types of people.
Yoder, who first met her husband at Des Moines Area Community College in Ankeny, remembers when they were dating and Andrew had to cancel plans because his job on the farm kept him working late. Facebook Twitter .
Others told him similar stories. Davis, who founded her matchmaking service insaid she doesn't believe residents away from the city are at a disadvantage.
Jerry Miller, who founded the popular farmersonly. The dating site now allows anyone toas long as they understand and respect the lifestyle and demands of farm life.
Still, despite the fact that some of Tillman's friends he used to go out with to have fun and meet women are getting serious or even married, he remains upbeat. At an age when many of his friends are already involved in serious relationships, the year-old corn, soybean and cattle farmer is one of many single people in rural America struggling to overcome their remote locations and unpredictable work schedules on the farm or ranch to meet Mister or Miss Right.
He's tried online dating, but with limited success.
Rural folks, she said, tend to buy more expensive packages that demand more of her time because they understand the unique challenges they face and the extra work that will likely be involved. His family and married friends rarely pass on the opportunity to tease him — especially with Valentine's Day approaching — about being single. When you're dating and getting pretty serious, you want to see that person as much as you can, but that just doesn't happen unless you go ride with someone in a tractor," said Nicole Yoder, 21, who married her husband, Andrew, in June after dating for two years.
For crop farmers, Davis suggests they start building up potential contacts a month before the growing season ends so that when work slows down they have a couple people they could start dating.